As I write this, thinking about family gatherings in this holiday season, I wonder if our current ways of getting together is our new norm.
This past Thanksgiving, we introduced Dad to Zoom. While I finished dinner preparations, he sat with my laptop and chatted with my son and daughter, and their children (his great-grandchildren), for nearly two hours. When it was all over, he asked, "Do I need internet for that?"
He cut off internet in his house not longer after my mom passed. She was the computer person of the duo. Now, he's contemplating putting it back in. I fired up Mom's old laptop the other day to see how it was running (just fine) so perhaps by Christmas we will have Dad zoomed up into the 21st century again.
We'll see.
When you think about it, why do we have to wait for a holiday to have those virtual family gatherings? My children/grandchildren live a state away. We should be doing this more often.
Same thing with gift-giving.
This year, I decided to tackle the 12 Days of Christmas gift idea. Now, I know there are many beliefs that surround the 12 Days of Christmas, religious ones that put the 12 days starting December 25--but in my world, I decided to lead up to the holiday. I'd box up and mail a package a day--one to my son's family and one to my daughter's--that represented each of the days. You know, partridge in a tree and all that. But what to send? Just ask Google.Seriously. There are so many ideas out there! Like this one, that gives you ideas with direct links for each day. Or this Pinterest board, with ideas aplenty. My gifts weren't super elaborate. Some where even silly. Candy was added occasionally and some home-made cookies. And every box, of course, had the appropriate day Christmas tree ornament. If you decide to tackle this idea, have fun shopping!
But then there is the downside. Before I knew it, Amazon had delivered and my dining room was full of boxes! Only good thing about all those deliveries were the actual shipping boxes they came in. It took me about a week to organize, wrap, rebox, and line them all up, ready to ship. And then came the secondary expense I hadn't really thought about--shipping! (consider this, please, in your holiday gift-giving budget, if you choose to do this!)But all in all, the gifts are mostly on their way now. The grandchildren have started receiving and opening. I get pictures from my son with this four girls digging into the boxes. Lots of smiles there. My fourteen-year-old grandson, in the other family, lamented, "Is this really what we are getting for Christmas this year from Mimi?" His older sisters (15 and 16) thought it was cute and fun. My daughter is already making plans to do this when her kids all move out.
To be honest, this all cost way more than what I normally would spend for Christmas gifts for my family--but it was worth every penny. I needed it as much as they did. Just as I needed to fix a traditional Thanksgiving meal, even if it was only for my Dad and me, I needed to do something "normal." Needed the tradition, and maybe the excitement, of starting a new one.Yeah. Maybe, the new norm. Again, we will see.
I hope your holiday celebrations are safe, happy--however you decided to celebrate them! Snuggle up by the fire (if you have one) but just make sure to give your loved ones a (maybe virtual) hug and spend some (Zoom) time together.
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Enjoy. And Happy Holidays!
~ Maddie
What a great idea. We do have to be inventive this year, don't we? And some of that inventiveness needs to carry on. Good for your dad. I hope he becomes a tech devotee.
ReplyDeleteThanks, Liz! He is still amazing at 83. Slower, but amazing. :)
DeleteI had an elderly aunt who was online taking to everyone. These people she'd never met started calling her grammie. She loved it. And went on everyday to check with her expanded family. Best of luck to your dad. The gift idea sound terrific!
ReplyDeleteOh, that is precious, Nora! Thanks for sharing. :)
DeleteI hope your dad enjoys his new normal with the internet in his life again!! What a grat idea to have him ZOOM while you were cooking...I’m sure there were lots of laughs and shared smiles as the prep moved along. Cheers!
ReplyDeleteThanks, Bonnie. It was fun for him!
DeleteWith technology now, being away from our loved ones isn't as hard as it would have been twenty years ago. I use What's App on my phone and video call my daughter and grandkids! My other daughter uses her car bluetooth to call me on her drive home from work. No more wasted time in the car. I can take pictures and short videos and send them immediately. I don't have to wait to finish the roll, bring them to the store, wait a week or so, then get them back to find half of the pictures came out blurry!!
ReplyDeleteGreat ideas, Kari! I love the idea of being immediate rather than waiting! I get pictures all the time from the kids and we text/message mostly, but seeing via video is so much better!
DeleteWhat a labor of love went into your gift. That's a ton of work.
ReplyDeleteIt was fun... and yes, a bit of work! But worth it.
DeleteGreat post, Maddie! What a year, but I LOVE your take on it all, blending the old and new, and taking it in stride as best you can. It's much the same for us, and I'm certain we've discovered some new "normals" that will stick. Merry Christmas to you and yours. Here's to a happy, healthy, joyful new year!
ReplyDeleteHappy Holidays to you, Kathy!
DeleteI love the 12 Days concept. What a cute idea. Maybe have Amazon send directly to the homes and save on shipping. My sister does that and it gives me nothing to unwrap but she is saving a fortune. Then again missing would be the cookies and candy. Love it.
ReplyDeleteYes, I do that throughout the year but I wanted to wrap the gifts and have some surprises. I think I've had more fun doing it, than they are having receiving... but it's all good!
DeleteThat does sound like fun in spite of being a ton of work for you. Very creative of you.
ReplyDeleteThanks, Caroline!
DeleteLove the 12 Days of Christmas gifts idea for those far away. We did Advent calendars when the kids were little with a tiny gift each day. I'm adopting your idea next year. Merry Christmas, Maddie.
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