Wednesday, January 8, 2020

Unfiltered by @ElsaKurt #RomanceGems

First: Happy New Year and New Decade! 

How exciting, right?! Okay, if I'm being honest, it took me a bit to feel it, that excitement. For me, 2019 was nice. The good things that happened over the year were greater in number and impact than the bad. I know 2019, we've been great friends these past twelve months. But this new guy, this fancy even number guy 2020. Hmm. Not so sure about you, buddy. You gonna bring good stuff? I've got my eye on you, you know.

Kidding aside, I really am excited for the new year. I love the promise of what might come, the fresh-start feeling, and - I confess - the fact that it brings me into the decade we move to Florida. Sure, it's not until almost midway through, but still... it's getting closer!!

Hang With Me, I'm About To Get Super Honest

There was one thing that occurred over the course of 2019 that was not so cool. I lost control of my health and gained a considerable amount of weight. Like 25lbs worth. I am at the fitness level of a ninety-year-old right now. I wish I was joking, but I'm not. And, if I'm being brutally honest, I hate how I look these days. I spoke in detail about it in this social media post:


My apologies for the f-bomb in there. What I've left out of the above post is that I took at least ten pictures before I found one vaguely okay enough to save... and filter. I'm never going to look that smooth in real life. My makeup will never be that on-point. I know this, and it's okay. It is what it is.This is basically me looking my best without cosmetic surgery! That's what I kept telling myself, at least. Believe me, I'm well-aware of the pitfalls and negatives of creating what is essentially an illusion. Especially when I see an unfiltered picture. (LOL). See example below. So, no. I'm not going unfiltered any time soon. #sorrynotsorry

Can ya blame a girl for wanting just a little smoothy-smooth?! A bit of brighty-bright?! And let's not even get into what happens when someone takes an unauthorized photo. Actually, that's what really set this resolution vibe going. Let's just say... it was bad. So, so bad. As in hell, no, I'm not showing you that picture. That picture showed the truth and it was painful.

No Crybaby Whining, I Swear!

It's only whining when you do nothing to change your situation! And I am changing my situation, one day at a time. But since I did some woe-is-me stuff up there, allow me to balance by saying this: I am ridiculously blessed and fortunate, and I'm grateful every day for this life I get to live. I love what I do, I am loved and supported, and I have no real complaints considering what other people are dealing with in the world. I have this one, very fixable problem, and it's in perspective.

Thank You

Well, my segue skill is not on point here, but thank you, kind people who take the time to read my posts and my books. You can never truly know how much it means to us writers. While I may not know your struggles and challenges, I know they exist and so my hope for you in this new year is that you have peace, patience, and love within and for yourself. P.S. One promise I made to myself when I began writing with intent to share was to be honest and open, good or bad. So, whether I go filtered or unfiltered in my photos, I can promise I'll always be real and authentic with my words and actions. ;)

Almost Forgot

The authoring stuff, duh! Quick heads up. I'm hard at work on book five in the Welcome to Chance Series and expect a February release! This has been the easiest... and yet most difficult one to write. There is SO much I want to tell you! But then this post would be the equivalent of a book. What I can do is direct you to my Newsletter, where not only do I give a sneak peek and an exclusive detail, but I'm also offering a chance to win a $20 Amazon Gift Card! Interested in starting the series? Image link below will take you to my website. Or click HERE.

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  1. Oh, Elsa, we do have our ups and downs. Life is a roller coaster or a least a bumpy ride. I must say you look great to me! You have great plans for the New Year. My 2020 be a good friend to you. Congrats on your series.

  2. I don't like pictures of myself either, and I don't know how to filter. You'll have to teach me. When people comment on my pictures and say, "But it looks just like you." My response, "Yeah, that's the problem." I haven't liked my looks in about...well, never. Maybe on my wedding day.
    But now that I am down in Florida (I'm a few years older than you) I'm happier in so many ways! Most of it stress from the day job is gone. Writing is front and center. Here's to you and 2020 and great things to come!

  3. Wonderful post, Elsa, but honestly. You're too hard on yourself. The unfiltered photo shows an attractive woman without makeup—and she still looks freaking good!! Yes, to being healthy, but don't worry about the no makeup thing. You look fine.(And I'm someone who rarely goes anywhere without hair and makeup done!)

  4. I could be mistaken, but it seems to me women are far harder on themselves than men. Or is that just my perception?

  5. A great post. And you are so pretty! Health is so important, but having a great time is better than having your makeup on right. Happy 2020 to you.

  6. Hang in there! 2020 will be a better year for all of us!

  7. Great post. You look so nice, though, that I can't imagine being displeased with the image. I suspect we are always too critical of ourselves. Happy 2020!

  8. I have the energy of a corpse that was buried a hundred years ago, give or take a few years. Karl, who never gains weight, bless him, ate the last of the chocolate chip cookies I stupidly made after getting off Keto. I have a fruit salad in the refrigerator (yes, I know, still carbs, but at least healthier than cookies. I keep telling myself today I will be good. One day at a time.
    And you look beautiful!

  9. It's amazing when posts can be about exactly what you're worried about. I'm in a similar boat as you, and I'm inspired by your thoughts and advice. Thank you! I do think you're hard on yourself, because you look beautiful in both pictures!

  10. Love all of you fabulous, uplifting, beautiful ladies. Thank you for your kind words, support and understanding. Such an honor to be in your company❤

  11. First off, I think you look amazing! As we get older we don't look like our younger selves and it can be a shock to see if reflected in the mirror back at us, I feel that constantly. My natural red hair is some weird light color now and so thin...

    But I admire your goals to work towards a healthier you. I have to do the same. Its inspiring sweetie!

    msredk at aol dot com

  12. Elsa, in 20 years or so you're going to look at that picture and say "damn, I looked good!" I think you look great, with or without the filter. (Also don't know how to do that.) I can't argue with the desire to be healthier, but as far as looks, I'd say you're in great shape. Now when I look at a picture of me I don't see what's in my mirror. I see someone who really needs a plastic surgeon.


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